How?

Count your successes – I list them one by one in a journal, but you can use an app or whatever works for you. Never forget – has to be your approach and when you build up multiple successes in your mind and acknowledge them – you can start by saying “I’ve been doing good for a while”.

The short game

When I don’t accomplish some goals that either I or someone else has set for me – it can be easy to quit and feel like there’s something wrong with me. I fight against this!

I try not to be short-sighted – I look at it like I have gained valuable experience. That means I am gonna nail it the next time – I’ve learned that if you try hard enough, you will find successes and view yourself as a success.

Light at the end of the tunnel vision

I don’t focus on what I don’t have and what I didn’t do. I have learned that being so caught up in this and comparing myself to others will betray me now and especially in the long term when I risk my self-esteem ending up in the dumpster.

No chaser

I don’t chase success – I sit back and evaluate how it is already a part of my life. I make building blocks in my mind of how I’ve gained knowledge, a lesson or general value in everything I do. If you want to feel good about yourself, you need an almost irrational memory for the positive and a matching belief in oneself.

I hope I have inspired some irrationality in this read.