Independent University Newspaper
Copenhagen Business School

Popular searches:

Independent University Newspaper

Copenhagen Business School

Is the grass greener on the other side?

portrait of woman

Private photo)

Blog |   15. Apr 2021

young woman smiling

Aisya Nizar


Easter break, a refreshing time for me. A time when I could reflect on my decision, to either stay or leave this country, which I am comfortable to call my second home. What will my future be like after this?

I came to Denmark in 2015 as an exchange student during my gap year after high school in Malaysia. I immediately fell in love with this country. I felt that here I can be open about things, I felt happy I get to see equality among people, I felt that this is the country where I want to build my life in the future, and to achieve all my dreams and career goals.

It was hard to learn everything from scratch and to be outside my comfort zone. I knew nothing about the Danish educational system, about not small talking on public transportation, or how to pronounce Å, Æ and Ø. I put effort into making new friends, learning the culture, and most importantly, having the determination to stay here in the future.

But I knew I couldn’t stay longer, as the education from my Malaysian high school was not enough. I opted to go back home to do my A-levels in Malaysia, but the dream to continue my education and to be here in Denmark never died…

Fast forward… 6 years later. Once again facing  the same decision, to stay or to leave. This time, it would be harder, as I am in a relationship, needing to leave my family in Denmark, needing to reschedule all of my life plans.

I consulted a few people to hear their thoughts about it, like my mentor Alex Avanth, my supervisor Olimpija Zaevska and my other friends. People have reached out to me saying that they supported me and even offered help with the funding.

Before Easter was a really stressful time for me. I was in a tight spot thinking about how to fund my master’s degree here at CBS. Thinking about it made my heart beat fast, as I was racing against time. The deadline was the 1st of June, and I only had 2 months to find DKK 57,000! How would I get that amount of money in 2 months?

I made an Excel sheet listing all the foundations that were available in Denmark, I applied for some education loans, wrote to some friends about how they funded their education here, friends sent me links to different funding sources, I sent inquiries to foundations and the list goes on. Then, I stopped doing it because I came to a realization. What if all my efforts come to nothing?

Hoping to get funding, and in the end not getting it will just lead me to more stress! It’s not easy applying to and finding all these foundations! Why do I want to do this to myself?

It was not a sign of defeat to me, but more a sign of knowing that I should not expect too much because of the uncertainty of it and how risky it is to be gambling my future in the hands of these foundations.

Never stop dreaming

This made me reflect more on why going back home is an option too. In November 2020, my father was diagnosed with Stage 4 Parotid cancer. Being away from him was terrifying. The thoughts of losing him while I was away were honestly something I did not want to contemplate. Luckily, he is getting better now, from his daily treatments. But I knew for a fact that being near him would be better, as I can help him and my siblings out as much as I can.

On top of that, the idea of working in Malaysia is actually super exciting! I get to speak in the Manglish (Malay + English) accent, I get to learn more about the Southeast Asian region, trying for the first time to be in my comfort zone and using my 3 years of IB for something practical! It is not bad at all and I would say that the grass might be greener on the other side.

Probably by now, you can guess which decision I have made. Honestly, deciding this was not easy, as I had to consider everything (family, relationship, career, financial aspects)! But I am really looking forward to where life takes me in Malaysia with all the crazy adventures. Although my future is still uncertain, I am excited to be going back home to embark on this new journey! Who knows, maybe I will return to Denmark again after a couple of years and will finally get to do my master’s degree at CBS?

Because, as they say, never stop dreaming.


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Is the grass greener on the other side?by

  • News

    Staff layoffs: What happens if you’re fired

    The clock is ticking. On Thursday morning (5 October), CBS employees will know if they are up for dismissal or not. But what will happen on the day? What emotional stages are you likely to encounter? And who will be there to pick you up when you are feeling the blow of being laid off? CBS WIRE has talked to HR and the consulting agency Actief Hartmanns to provide you with answers.

  • News

    Network, network, network – CBS graduates advise on getting your first job

    There are many approaches to finding your first job. Three recent CBS graduates talk about how they landed theirs. Their approaches were quite different, yet they all highlight networking as a key element.

  • News

    A-Z of the dismissals

    In these final days of September, the fate of a number of CBS employees is being decided. The final amount of money saved on salaries via voluntary severance agreements (aka redundancy packages, Ed.) and senior agreements will be known.  After this, the actual number of employees up for dismissal will be decided by management – and then the individuals will be selected.

  • News

    Layoffs break the crucial trust between organisation and employee

    CBS is laying off a number of employees soon, which will affect our university in different ways. When employees are fired without having done anything wrong, it shatters the trust between the organisation and employees, while also taking a toll on productivity, according to a CBS expert. Layoffs also affect the ‘survivors’, who are forced to adapt to a changed workload and the loss of cherished colleagues.

  • News

    Here to help – at the touch of a button and at Campus Desk

    Exam anxiety? Lost student card? I’ve wedged my car between a Fiat 500 and a lamp post, can you help? You never know what you’ll be asked next. But that’s just how the Campus Desk team like it. And if they can’t fix your problem, they’ll know someone who can. CBS WIRE asked the team about the whole range of topics they advice on every day.

  • Gif of the week
  • News

    CBS Quiz Time: Unraveling the success story

    A successful university environment such as CBS is often associated with academic pursuits, but campus life extends far beyond the classroom. At CBS Quiz Time, a student society motivated by creative thinking and social engagement, students join in a refreshing range of creativity, excitement, and social interaction. CBS WIRE talked to Celine Møller-Andersen to find out about the society’s vision, strategies and the factors that are driving its rapid expansion.

  • News

    Why so sudden? The CBS financial crisis explained

    Employees and union representatives have posed many questions in the wake of the 17 August announcement of a firing round. In this interview, University Director Arnold Boon explains how Senior Management has been working with the budget and a change of financial strategy since the fall of 2022, and why layoffs are now necessary.

Follow CBS students studying abroad

CBS WIRE collaborates with

Stay connected